From 0-7 years of our lives we don't usually have long term memory. Instead, our memories end up getting stored in our limbic systems. These implicit memories, keep resurfacing throughout our adult lives in the form of triggers. That is why it is so important to be mindful of how and what children are experiencing through these first few years.
A lot of times we have triggers, sometimes when our children throw a tantrum, or when they hit us or they hit someone else ..or when they are not eating their food. Something within us just triggers and we go into this amygdala hijack mode, which is the fight /flight mode.
These patterns from our childhood keep resurfacing, and affecting the way we react or respond to the world around us, specially our children. Something to do with what triggered our parents and the way they reacted or responded to us, and that goes back to what triggered their parents and so on. It's a vicious cycle.
What we need to do today is break these negative patterns and reactions that surface from our limbic systems. We need to learn to respond consciously instead. This will not only help us raise amazing kids but also help break this cycle and pattern of behaviors for our children and not just our children but their children. We have a chance to break these negative patterns that flows onto generations.
School-Parent Partnership is essential to children's well-being. As a school, we are trying to develop a shared understanding and awareness of child development, and practice a common response to challenging behavior so that the world of school and home are not considered worlds apart by the child.
Ms. Mridula Saria's session for our parents, teachers, and leaders from early childhood education centers was interactive, thought-provoking, and insightful. Ms. Saria's way of weaving stories and personal anecdotes connected the audience to her and created a safe space to ask questions and share concerns as well. Her session was a perfect blend of theory and practical application, and the participants learned something new and cleared their doubts about the best way to approach challenging behaviors such as temper tantrums. It was a wonderful session to enhance our school-parent partnership vision!
Principal (Uniglobe School)
Mridula’s sessions are very well covered and in a very simplified way. I got a chance to do much self-reflection. I am taking the techniques I learnt from Mridula’s sessions like the CALM technique, the Traffic light rule, the Adrenaline Play and myself as a frontal lobe substitute for my children until they grow older.
Doctor
The session for teenagers was really helpful . I specially got to learnt a lot about our brain functioning and different chemical reactions that takes place in us, which we were unaware about. I will definitely try the techniques and mirroring as well.
Today’s session has truly changed my perspective and the way I look at my teenage child
I got to know a lot about the reasons why kids react in a certain way, and how I have to be the guiding force and their guardian, in spite of them growing. :) I learnt how I can work towards being a better parent and also keep myself calm. I will definitely implement all the techniques I learnt.
Parent
Despite knowing what I was doing, quite unexpectedly, my son started rebelling at age 10. He felt like I was too controlling and manipulative, hated it. He was angry all the time and wouldn't listen. There was always a “No” to everything. He intentionally tried to make me feel bad. I couldn't figure where I went wrong, as I was doing everything as per my knowledge. I used to be so proud of my parenting. Now the theories that I read were not working. I was desperate. I thought I should seek help.
The first person who came to my mind was Ms Mridula Saria.
My husband and I met her in mid of march, 2021. I poured out all my heartfelt sorrows and she completely understood my situation. Mridula explained child psychology and development to me. She also gave us simple tools to cope with the situation. I was amazed that it worked like MAGIC. Everything is like it was earlier and I cannot thank Mridula enough for giving our life back. It hasn’t just improved my relationship with my son but also with everyone else I am connected with. My husband who was skeptical earlier, now swears by what we have learned.
Parent
I am a firm believer in the vast difference between children growing up and children being raised. 'Raising' children requires conscious parenting that involves lot of introspection and understanding of human behaviour which is not always easy. In my on-going journey as a parent, Mridula has tremendously helped me whenever I fall off the rail. Her techniques derived from extensive research on child behavior and human brain has helped me put my thoughts into action and see immediate results in the relationship between my son and I, making parenting even more joyful. Keep up the good work, Mridula.
Parent