Over the last month I needed to look for a lot of solutions, as different situations started to arise at work that I didn’t have answers to, and as I was dwelling on these problems, I started to find the answers as I continued to ask myself why. That led me to start following and listening to some of Simon Sinek’s videos, where he talked about the importance of asking and figuring out the ‘Why’? The more I asked ‘Why’ the closer I got to my solutions.
My son is 4 years old currently , and like every other 4 year old he asks a lot of ‘whys’ and like every other mother tired of all those ‘whys’ there are days when I respond saying, “Cos it is that way”, “I don’t know why” , “What do you mean why?”.
Of course I have studied about how children get all curious and genuinely want to know ‘why’ on the strangest of things and I have always tried to encourage his curiosity, yet sometimes my responses come so naturally and subconsciously that most of the times I am not even aware that I am in fact curbing his curiosity.
Although the more I am realizing and reading about the importance of this, I am trying my best to be more conscious and self-aware of encouraging him to continue the process of asking ‘why’.
Some of the responses that I have seen have helped with lately are, “Hmm interesting, I am not sure why, but we can find out”, “What do you think? Why is it this way?” Etc.
Sometimes when I have the patience to, I just answer them in the simplest possible way. I believe it doesn’t have to be logically correct as long as it encourages him to keep thinking, or it gets some point across.
As children we continually asked this question, until adults kept telling us to stop. I also know some children do this way more often than other children. I remember at some point, my relatives started to make a joke out of it, saying we will name you ‘question mark’ since you always ask ‘why’. It’s strange to me how as a child I was discouraged or mocked upon on asking, ‘why’, where as today an inspirational speaker is teaching me to ask ‘why’. What’s even more surprising is how ingrained the system or culture is, that sometimes I subconsciously end up discouraging my child to do the same, despite knowing the essence of it.
We get so lost in doing what we usually do, how we usually do, specially in the way we parent our children, that every once in a while we must remind ourselves to ask that most important question, ‘Why’? While not just allowing our children, but in fact encouraging them to do the same.
School-Parent Partnership is essential to children's well-being. As a school, we are trying to develop a shared understanding and awareness of child development, and practice a common response to challenging behavior so that the world of school and home are not considered worlds apart by the child.
Ms. Mridula Saria's session for our parents, teachers, and leaders from early childhood education centers was interactive, thought-provoking, and insightful. Ms. Saria's way of weaving stories and personal anecdotes connected the audience to her and created a safe space to ask questions and share concerns as well. Her session was a perfect blend of theory and practical application, and the participants learned something new and cleared their doubts about the best way to approach challenging behaviors such as temper tantrums. It was a wonderful session to enhance our school-parent partnership vision!
Principal (Uniglobe School)
Mridula’s sessions are very well covered and in a very simplified way. I got a chance to do much self-reflection. I am taking the techniques I learnt from Mridula’s sessions like the CALM technique, the Traffic light rule, the Adrenaline Play and myself as a frontal lobe substitute for my children until they grow older.
Doctor
The session for teenagers was really helpful . I specially got to learnt a lot about our brain functioning and different chemical reactions that takes place in us, which we were unaware about. I will definitely try the techniques and mirroring as well.
Today’s session has truly changed my perspective and the way I look at my teenage child
I got to know a lot about the reasons why kids react in a certain way, and how I have to be the guiding force and their guardian, in spite of them growing. :) I learnt how I can work towards being a better parent and also keep myself calm. I will definitely implement all the techniques I learnt.
Parent
Despite knowing what I was doing, quite unexpectedly, my son started rebelling at age 10. He felt like I was too controlling and manipulative, hated it. He was angry all the time and wouldn't listen. There was always a “No” to everything. He intentionally tried to make me feel bad. I couldn't figure where I went wrong, as I was doing everything as per my knowledge. I used to be so proud of my parenting. Now the theories that I read were not working. I was desperate. I thought I should seek help.
The first person who came to my mind was Ms Mridula Saria.
My husband and I met her in mid of march, 2021. I poured out all my heartfelt sorrows and she completely understood my situation. Mridula explained child psychology and development to me. She also gave us simple tools to cope with the situation. I was amazed that it worked like MAGIC. Everything is like it was earlier and I cannot thank Mridula enough for giving our life back. It hasn’t just improved my relationship with my son but also with everyone else I am connected with. My husband who was skeptical earlier, now swears by what we have learned.
Parent
I am a firm believer in the vast difference between children growing up and children being raised. 'Raising' children requires conscious parenting that involves lot of introspection and understanding of human behaviour which is not always easy. In my on-going journey as a parent, Mridula has tremendously helped me whenever I fall off the rail. Her techniques derived from extensive research on child behavior and human brain has helped me put my thoughts into action and see immediate results in the relationship between my son and I, making parenting even more joyful. Keep up the good work, Mridula.
Parent
Thank you Mridula for sharing your “food for thought” Session with us. It was nice to learn through your Presentation the connection between how our brain reacts and processes situations and how it translates when dealing with our children. It was indeed a pleasure to see someone as young as yourself having taken this road and the amount of knowledge you have mastered in the subject. Parent - Children relationship is one of a fragile nature and if the foundations as explained by you can be strong then the outcome is a win-win for all. As you continue to evolve in this journey, I am sure you shall continue to enlighten Parents and Children with your knowledge and practical examples!
Delhi Engagers, Entrepreneur’s Organisation
Mridula Saria is a keen learner and learns with the best minds available worldwide. She is a keen reader and a versatile professional.
Her sessions are remarkably focused and she adapts with elan to her audience's needs. The sessions she conducted with parents at Premier International IB Continuum School reflected her in-depth knowledge of the subject and the wide range of knowledge she has garnered as a Parenting Coach and Mentor.
As a mother, she practices what she preaches. Therefore it is with remarkable first-hand insight that she connects with parental isssues and provides easy-to-follow, bite-sized solutions.
Principal (Premier International IB Continuum School)
I wanted to express my gratitude for the invaluable guidance and support you provided as our school consultant. Your expertise in educational strategies and your keen understanding of our school's unique challenges were evident throughout the consulting process.
Your recommendations were practical, actionable, and tailored to the specific needs of our school.
I highly recommend your services to any educational institution seeking a knowledgeable and dedicated consultant. Thank you for contributing to the continuous improvement and success of our school.
Director Mother's pride Ravibhawan
The sessions with Mridula has truly guided me to become a better version of myself, so I can be better parent to my toddler. It has also provided me with tools as a mother, as a spouse, in how to better handle situations that are uncertain in the moment. These sessions are powerful, even months after I’ve left the conversation with Mridula, it stays in the subconscious- practicing these habits and mindset which comes up to the conscious as situations arises (not only while dealing with my toddler, but just life experiences).
It is beautiful to learn and grow as we journey through different phases of life, and even better that we have expertise to support us through the way.
Thank you !
As a psychologist, I strongly believe that it's not just about changing your child's behavior, but also considering changes in their surroundings and oneself. This belief led me to meet Mridula.
As a parent, we are always curious to know what is best for our child. Mridula's warm and approachable demeanor made it easier for us. She provided valuable insights into my parenting style and offered several techniques that have promoted positive behavior in my child. Her guidance has also helped me improve myself, not always get frustrated, and keep this parenting journey sparkling.
She also stays connected after the session for regular follow-ups.
Thank you so much, Mridula. Keep up the good work.
Life Coach | Psychologist